"The lesson I re-learned is that much of the time this is the wrong question (What should I do, now that something has gone wrong?). The more important question is, "How do I help things go right?"
"When asked which type of question is primary, most of us realize it is the second. But when we are asked which question we actually spend more time on, we typically say the first."
"The effectiveness of our correction of our children, whatever method we use, will always depend on the effectiveness of our prior teaching of them."
- The Arbinger Comany. (1998). The Parenting Pyramid.
The Arbinger Institute. Salt Lake City: The Arbinger Company.
Teaching Method Number 1: Communicate Together
- Read Aloud to Your Child
- Ask Open-Ended Questions
- Listen Carefully
- Answer Any Questions
- Use Kind and Respectful Responses
- Talk About Their Feelings
- Play Together
- Craft Together
- Sing Together
- Work Together
- One Step at a Time
- Repeat Often
- Make it Visual
As parents, the better we become at teaching, the easier it will be to correct them when we need to... less often, more loving, and more helpful.
